Daughter Suing Parents for College Money

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Oh, college life! I remember when I was a senior in college, boy, I couldn’t wait for the last semester to be finished so I could graduate and be done with schooling for good. Believe it or not, I spent a long time finishing my management degree. I guess I didn’t manage my time too well, hah! . The four year college degree took me 7 years to finish it. Yes, 7 long years…(how sad!). I’m not shy to admit this because that’s the truth. But I had a very good reason why I took so long to graduate.

I was a working student at that time. I was blessed to have an employer that was very supportive of working students like me. I was fortunate too for landing in an office job at that time even though I hadn’t finished getting my college degree yet. Getting a job in the Philippines is really tough if you’re not a college graduate.

I worked in an office in the daytime while going to school at night. This is how I paid my way through college. That’s why when graduation day came I was so happy. Working by day and going to school at night wasn’t easy to do. There were times that I had my typewriter (yes, a typewriter that my mom bought from a pawnshop because we couldn’t afford a PC or laptop) and my books all over my bed.   All the financial sacrifice and all the staying up late reviewing for exams and looking like a raccoon the next day finally paid off.

When I came to the United States I was surprised and impressed that the government here helps students to go to college. They have a student loan program where students can borrow money to pay for college and then pay it back once they finish their degree and start working.

Several months ago, while RT and I were sitting in the living room eating dinner and watching the news something caught our attention. There’s an 18 year old girl from New Jersey suing her parents to pay for her college. I haven’t heard something so ridiculous in my life. Suing your own parents? This is really an outrage. This teenager was suing her parents because they refused to pay for her college because she won’t abide by the house rules that her parents set for her. 

A lot of people, especially parents, gave their comments about this issue and most of the comments were not favorable to the 18 year old. Some said that she’s a brat and has too much of an entitlement mentality. Others find her actions to be disrespectful and vicious.

In Proverbs 13:24 its says:

Whoever spares the rod hates their children,

   but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. 

The problem with society today is that parents have become too lenient with their kids. Instead of being parents they play the role of their child’s best friend. Kids need parents who will support, guide, and teach them the things that they should do and not do.

Kids today need to know their parents are in charge in the house. And they also need to love and respect the ones who are in charge. Exodus 20:12 is clear on this.

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you.”